What if we re-negotiated the energy of Obligation?
What if we alchemized that energy into Gold, into thriving, into more time and space and abundance and beauty and space for humanity and wonder?

In service, in relationships, in parenting, in business

What if we lived in a world of balanced healing practitioners and service providers, ones with a deep sense of self and receiving, not just giving? What if they didn't feel they have to change the world, but they CHOOSE to change the world, just by going inside and creating coherence, by knowing that by tending to their insides, the outsides flower. What if they choose to change the world by Becoming the possibility in the universe? What if we softly ended the paradigm of the codependent healer, the savior, the starving artist, and replaced it with vitality, flow, nourishment, true confidence and self trust?

What if we lived in a world where we didn't HAVE to work on ourselves relationally, like it's a chore, but we choose to, we get to, because of the pleasure and peace that gets created each time we remember and expand? What if we choose to because of the new relationship we create with being challenged and expanding our capacity to grow and hold and be with more of life and each other? What if challenges and stretching were pleasurable, expansive, supportive, empowering, fun?

What if we lived in a world of nourished and supported and empowered mothers and fathers? What if we had higher standards for ourselves and each other? What if we treated both men and women kindly and with compassion, what if we weren't so afraid of getting honest about the addiction to martyrdom and suffering and being so 'good' (instead of Just Being It All) that stems from trauma in our bones.

What if we can grieve or be angry or stretch without pathologizing, and let others grieve without feeling obligated to save them from their humanity, from their becoming.

What if we can stretch our capacity to be human, connected, peacefully, free, feeling, clear, kind, boundaried, open one day at a time because we WANT to?

There is a whole life beyond Obligation. Where responsibility, humanity and grace still live - with balance.