Let's talk about Safety and Expansion:

(Beyond "pop culture" healing)

Safety is the absolute foundation and prerequisite for any sustainable healing and expansion.

I've shared in the past that safety is not the goal for this work. That is NOT because it's not important, but because it is actually the pre-requisite, the BEDROCK, of this work. Safety is not the destination or goal - it is the foundation.

There is a lot of confusion in pop culture healing around what safety is. Safety is not passivity or comfort. It's not something we "grow out of." It's not the goal because it's the absolute foundation of creating real, sustainable, and lasting healing and creations. But sometimes in healing spaces, it's misunderstood, and people use that word to keep themselves and their lives smaller than what their hearts really desire.

Without safety, the body won't open. The nervous system won't let you expand into what feels like danger. It'll shut down, protect, and hide. Without safety, the healing won't integrate, and the abundance won't know where to land. But don't confuse safety with comfort. Don't confuse fear or apprehension with unsafety. Don't confuse sadness or anger or emotions that feel like a lot to feel with unsafety. Comfort keeps you contracted. Safety lets you grow. Safety says: You're held as you grow. I will love you through this. The work isn't about STAYING safe. It's about EXPANDING safely - stretching without abandoning yourself. Being kind to the body that houses your soul. Reminding your body it has you now. It has awareness and consciousness now.

Safety must come along at every level of expansion and growth. What is (beyond pop culture) safety? In the way I feel it inside, Safety isn't something we find out there. It's something we build inside.

External safety DOES help (co-regulation is a prerequisite to self-regulation for small babies), soft spaces, kind people, stability all play a role in safety, but the deepest safety is internal. It's the knowing: I can stay with myself no matter what happens. It's telling my body in the middle of the trigger: "Hello, I'm still here. I've got you." It's remembering the One who always was, is, and always will be holding us, and breathing that remembering back into our bodies... over and over again.

Every next level of growth, expansion, opening, and receiving is an opportunity to make it safe inside for ourselves. Not by bypassing our real feelings or ignoring the fear but by co-regulating with our truest self, with God, with our breath over and over and over again. Every trigger, fear, uncertainty is an opportunity to make it safe for ourselves again, by returning to the present moment, by using our breath as prayer, by feeling what we feel and letting it pass through. By holding ourselves, and by leaning on God.

Real safety to me is an inner homecoming. Not dramatic. Not always easy. But real. And it isn't the goal because it's a prerequisite as the adult to our inner child to make ourselves safe: every. Single. Day. No days off. Real safety is when you teach your body to trust you by consistently showing up for it. When you begin to teach it, you won't abandon it to please, perform, or push through. When you forgive yourself, and practice self compassion for the times that you didn't keep yourself safe. It was because you were just doing what you were modeled. Be kind to you. Real safety is not about controlling what happens, or knowing what will happen next, or always being happy with how it is - it's about cultivating presence and not abandoning yourself through it, to the best of your human ability. Safety inside sounds like: "I can feel this and still be okay." "I can hold myself through this wave." "I don't need to disappear to be safe."

Safety inside can sound like telling yourself gently, "I can feel this and still be okay." "I can hold myself through this wave." "I don't need to disappear to be safe."

It's not about perfect conditions or people never hurting you. It's about the moment your body knows: I won't leave myself.

That's safety. When you can feel what you feel and stay. When you can face the unknown without abandoning You. When you teach yourself that you are the precious One you are living for.

When you feel safe, You stop chasing peace. You become it. Not once, but over and over again. By knowing that you are your own peace and then taking actions to embody that truth. And that is what makes expansion possible - not forcing yourself past fear, not abandoning safety for expansion, but meeting all the "more" you are calling in from a place that's rooted, steady, grounded, and alive.

Safety isn't a cage. It's the ground beneath your becoming. It's the prerequisite to your expanded capacity. And it gets to come with you as you rise, higher and higher, and receive more and more deeply, and expand beyond your wildest dreams.

Remember: safety is wherever YOU are. Because wherever You are is where the piece of God inside of you is.

Remember: safety is wherever YOU are. Because wherever You are is where the piece of God inside of you Is.