Things shift rapidly, and uplevel in big ways in our lives when we begin to ask the question of “What can I learn from this, what is the lesson here?” in a time of pain or challenge, vs. asking, “why me?”.

Radical Responsibility leads to Radical Possibility. 

We are here on a soul journey, to learn what we need to learn. We chose our lessons, that's a part of our soul contract here.

There's place for the "victim part." To honor the part that may very well feel like a victim. (That very well may be/have been a victim) We can give that part warmth and care and space and nourishment and validation. But when we ENMESH with that part (who is most likely our inner child) we aren't honoring something that is separate than our essence, we blend with it and BECOME it... and lose track of the plot of the story of life which is that: we are here to learn and grow and become and transcend and BE joyous and alive.

When we can hold the inner child inside of the adult, essential Self that we are, when we don't enmesh but instead choose to BE with the more sticky, sad parts of ourselves, we then allow the spaciousness inside of ourselves to transcend the victim, and choose LIFE.

This post is not about asking others what their lessons are but about asking this question to ourselves. The more empowered we allow ourselves to be, the more we uplevel.

One of the hypnosis modalities I use with clients is womb and PL regressions. Inside of these hypnosis sessions clients have the ability to communicate clearly with their soul, see the patterns and lessons along their soul journey, and remember and understand with deeper clarity why they chose the particular path they did. This can be incredibly empowering for clients to be able to walk away with the understanding of the fact that they aren't a victim to their lives, but a direct co-creator of it.

(I only offer these sessions on retreats or if someone feels really ready and "called" to do this process. This is an intensive deep dive and nervous system work and energetic hygeine work comes first 🤍)