How do you feel about a life with no gossip?

A new year where we see and speak about others through kind eyes, and kind hearts... where we stand eye to eye, and heart to heart. Minding our own business, about our own business. Together. A year where we lift each other up.

I've heard countless stories of how gossip eroded friendships, relationships, businesses, communities, and children's lives.

Gossip has this way of seeping in; it doesn't give us the ability to see life through our clear lens. It colors the camera, it zooms the photo up to someone else's perspective, usually created from pain or confusion.

A client told me this week:

"I've observed that when my inner world is tended to, I have a lot less to say about others."

I'm choosing to be the change in the world that I want to see by doing 2 things that feel radical for me:

1. sharing this post
2. making a commitment to never be part of it again (I know it is radical, and I WILL stick to my word)

Lashon Hara (gossip) often wears the costume of concern, but its true test is simple: does this speech bring me closer to love, or further away from focusing on my own path?

The soul that is busy growing, loving, praying, living fully alive, and Being has little interest in discussing others - even if it's under the disguise of "making the world a better place."

Gossip distracts us from the holy discomfort of being fully present with ourselves.

The soul learns maturity when it no longer needs commentary on everyone else's choices.

Sometimes Lashon Hara can be hidden under a disguise of: "I need to protect the world from what I'm seeing is wrong and bad on the outside."

But actually, we are not responsible for fixing people; we are only meant to respect others, have reverence for their path, and allow Hashem/God/the universe to show what is true.

People who are quick to spot what is "wrong" often experience it as moral clarity or responsibility. It can feel like vigilance, even kindness—a desire to protect truth, values, or others from harm. But I've learned it's important to pause and examine when the urge to fix the world outpaces the willingness to examine ourselves. Not every flaw we notice is a summons, and not every discomfort we feel is proof that something external needs correcting. Sometimes what we call righteousness is simply anxiety looking for direction. Sometimes it's jealousy looking for a place to put it. And sometimes it's pain, trying to hide.

Sometimes (mostly) it's not about the outside at all, but our interpretation of the outside.

Torah wisdom asks for discernment before action: Is this mine to carry? The work of tikkun does not begin with correcting others, but with refining the lens through which we see others. Kind eyes, kind hearts, softer spirits.

When our own inner world is unsettled, we scan outward for errors; when it is grounded, we become slower, more careful, and more humble in our judgments. Saving the world is not a loud project. It usually looks like restraint, and the quiet courage to do one's own work before trying to do anyone else's.

State of Being is going to be a community space with this culture. This is not a space to come to be fixed, diagnosed, or saved. No one there is going to play the role of a healer.

Trust in God and in your body and souls' inherent wisdom is how we will be.

You don't need to be fixed or changed.

We can be with you in your living, creating, awareness, and state of Being.

We will have a culture of kindness, reverence, humor, spaciousness, and respect.

Where each person goes inside to see themselves with the kindness they deserve, and therefore it is easy for them to Be That, in community with you.

A community that knows in their bones that true curiosity is noticing... without judgement

May we all learn to find more productive ways to feel our pain

May we feel our feelings and know that we aren't those feelings, so we don't need to put them on others in harmful ways

May we learn to sit with our discomfort as a collective

And be kind to and about one another because you matter

We matter

We all matter so much.

I believe with every inch of my body, every fiber and cell that we co-create the redemption we seek. Not starting outside, but beginning within. Being the medicine. Our own medicine. Filling our hearts with our very own love. Radiating it out from within. I believe peace within comes first. I believe this is how we change the world. By not changing the world. By Being our Selves and allowing that to Be the Medicine.

Today... I asked God the same 3 questions I always do at 9 am when my alarm rings: what would you have me say, what would you have me do, who would you have me be?

Today, the answer was this post. These words.

This is an edgy post for me and a big commitment to make out loud. But I am determined to keep my commitment. If you are joining me/us in the state of being community or not, let me know if you are IN...

To simply stop engaging with drama that may exist around you, to say no to Gossip, and to go inside.

If you are IN, please comment in.

This Post was created on the merit of my aunt, who is in critical condition and can benefit from all our heartfelt prayers and specifically actions and commitments and energy shifts around radical love for our sisters and our brothers... regardless if we like or understand them 🤍