I have been blessed to learn deeply about coherence from my teachers, elders, through my own life, from nature, and in working with many humans, and I'd love to share some of it with you! I wrote a lot, so receive whatever it is that you choose, or that lands for you.

What Is Coherence?

To create coherence is to orient towards what is coherent.

To notice and acknowledge and focus on where it already IS.

With orienting towards coherence, what we are orienting to, focusing and noticing, is what is already healthy, vital, whole, in the resonance field.

From this lens, symptoms become medicine, triggers are information, we feel our feelings without becoming our feelings, and our humanity is not pathologized, and gets to fully exist without being defended or denied.

Nothing I have ever learned, no modality, or teaching has been as practically impactful to my life and to my clients' lives as a result as learning about coherence was.

The Problem with Problem-Solving

We know and learn in many different ways that what we focus on grows. Yet in healing and mental health work, business, relationships, and personal development, we are frequently trained to focus on identifying, analyzing, and solving the problem.

Especially practitioners, coaches, health "experts"—while well-intentioned, this approach can unintentionally keep us resonating within the very field of the problem itself. Attention remains organized around dysregulation, deficiency, or "what's wrong," and the nervous system stays oriented toward threat or fixing.

We are in a loop, solving the "problem" over and over again—at the level of the problem.

Coherence Is Not Bypassing

Coherence is not bypassing. It is not denial, positivity, or pretending that pain, conflict, or dysfunction doesn't exist. Rather, orienting towards coherence creates enough internal space for the nervous system to actually be with what is. It allows us to hold reality without collapsing into it OR fighting against it.

It helps us Be with what IS.

With coherence, reality is spacious enough to hold many truths at once. There can be pain and safety, challenge and capacity, grief and wholeness. When we orient toward what is coherent, balanced, vital, even while challenges are present, we give the system (whatever system it is) an organizing reference point. From that place, healing becomes more intelligent, natural, connected, flowing and less forceful.

How Coherence Transforms Healing

Living from coherence allows change to emerge organically rather than being imposed. The body, psyche, and relational field are no longer treated as problems to be fixed, but as intelligent systems seeking regulation and integration. This shifts healing out of a pathologized framework and into one that is deeply human, relational, and whole.

In orienting to coherence, we are not abandoning the wound—we are resourcing the system enough to meet it. And from that meeting, real transformation becomes possible. Authentic freedom gets to emerge.

Coherence changes the orientation of our attention. Instead of asking, "What is wrong and how do I fix it?" we begin to ask, "What is already organized, regulated, and alive here—and how do I choose to be present with that?" This subtle shift has profound consequences. The nervous system does not heal through insight alone; it heals through experience. Coherence offers an experience of safety, order, and connection that the system can feel and adapt to.

Why Coherence Breaks the Loop

When we remain fixated on the problem, even with compassion and skill, the body often stays in a state of mobilization or collapse. The system is still tracking threat. Coherence interrupts this loop—not by overriding it, but by widening the field. It allows the system to sense stability alongside instability, capacity alongside pain. In doing so, the perception of choice is restored.

This is why coherence is so deeply regulating. It gives the body a reference point that is not organized around trauma, deficiency, or pathology. From a coherent state, the nervous system can metabolize experience rather than brace against it. Emotions move. Insight integrates. Behavior changes with free will activated.

Coherence in Relationships and Leadership

In relational and professional contexts, coherence becomes even more powerful. A coherent system influences the field around it. In relationships, it reduces reactivity and invites resonance. In leadership and business, it clarifies decision-making and reduces urgency-driven action. People don't feel managed or fixed—they feel met because they ARE met—for who they really ARE.

Importantly, coherence does not mean comfort. It can include intensity, grief, anger, or uncertainty. What distinguishes coherence is not the absence of these states, but the presence of enough internal organization to stay connected while they arise. This is what allows difficult truths to be held without fragmentation.

A New Understanding of Healing

Over time, working from coherence rewires how we understand healing itself. Healing is no longer about getting rid of symptoms, but about increasing the system's capacity to hold complexity. It becomes less about intervention and more about orientation. Less about effort and more about alignment. The word healing doesn't even apply as much in this field (a conversation for another time).

This is why coherence feels so fresh and novel for people used to more traditional problem-solving approaches. It doesn't create dependence on techniques or experts. It builds internal authority and self-trust. Clients don't just feel better—they become more resourced, more present, more able to meet life as it unfolds, they feel their feelings but orient towards their souls, identify with their souls—which is the most coherent field to exist.

Returning to Wholeness

At its core, coherence is a return to wholeness simply by noticing what is already whole. Not a perfected wholeness, but a living, breathing one. A wholeness that includes rupture and repair, tension and release, individuality and connection, humanity and divinity.

From this place, growth is not something we chase—it is something that naturally emerges.

From a soul perspective, the deepest coherence is remembering, living, and creating from our State of BEING. The place beyond any identity. The place of I am that I am.

The infinite aspect of ourselves having a Human experience.