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Unshaming Defenses

Unshaming Defenses

Feb 09, 2024

Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than a sweet, scared child with an unmet need.

Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than an initial instinct inside dictated by old stories and paradigms, and past trauma.

Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than an indication of the capacity of the nervous system of the person feeling the defense.

Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than holding patterns of protection in the brain and body.

Defenses are a window into what is polarized, shamed, or pushed down on the inside.

Defenses are a window into the deeper needs of the human experiencing the defense mechanism. Un-shaming defenses lead to radical healing. 

Defenses are information.

Defenses are unmet needs.

Defenses are an indication of childhood wounds and current nervous system capacity.

What our children need the most in the world is for us to work on our defenses, so that they  can have a chance to not grow calloused and defenseful and ashamed

Defense mechanisms compound each other.

Learning about and unshaming Defenses helps mitigate how much they actually show up in our fields

If you want to learn how to get much less defensive around your people- your friends, partners, and children,

If you are a clinician, coach, healer, or therapist and want to learn to work with the defenses of your clients in a way that helps to soften and melt them,

If you are a parent and want to radically lower and soften the defense mechanisms in your home,

If you are a human who is tired of shaming your protectors, and the ways you cope, learning to call defenses by their true name, and work with them with compassion will create so much space for rapid healing and growth in yourself, your family and your life.

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