Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than a sweet, scared child with an unmet need.
Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than an initial instinct inside dictated by old stories and paradigms, and past trauma.
Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than an indication of the capacity of the nervous system of the person feeling the defense.
Defenses are nothing more and nothing less than holding patterns of protection in the brain and body.
Defenses are a window into what is polarized, shamed, or pushed down on the inside.
Defenses are a window into the deeper needs of the human experiencing the defense mechanism. Un-shaming defenses lead to radical healing.
Defenses are information.
Defenses are unmet needs.
Defenses are an indication of childhood wounds and current nervous system capacity.
What our children need the most in the world is for us to work on our defenses, so that they can have a chance to not grow calloused and defenseful and ashamed
Defense mechanisms compound each other.
Learning about and unshaming Defenses helps mitigate how much they actually show up in our fields
If you want to learn how to get much less defensive around your people- your friends, partners, and children,
If you are a clinician, coach, healer, or therapist and want to learn to work with the defenses of your clients in a way that helps to soften and melt them,
If you are a parent and want to radically lower and soften the defense mechanisms in your home,
If you are a human who is tired of shaming your protectors, and the ways you cope, learning to call defenses by their true name, and work with them with compassion will create so much space for rapid healing and growth in yourself, your family and your life, sign up for the De-shaming defenses class, the first of many classes on this topic, for an intro into beginning the process of working with and understanding defense mechanisms in a way that works!
I found the email with the link to the portal and just finished watching it. It was beautiful in its truth and simplicity. So many things resonated with me. My favorite line was your coaching to find that part of ourselves that just is, that isn't good or bad, that just is. Oof!! Just sitting with that truth and will come back to it. Thank you for your beautiful compassion and care. It resonated in every word you spoke. Your embodied acceptance and humility, but also knowingness, is an inspiration. -LL
I just finished watching the Deshaming defenses class. It was beautiful in its truth and simplicity. So many things resonated with me. My favorite line was your coaching to find that part of ourselves that just is, that isn't good or bad, that just is. Oof!! Just sitting with that truth and will come back to it. Thank you for your beautiful compassion and care. It resonated in every word you spoke. Your embodied acceptance and humility, but also knowingness, is an inspiration. -SC
I made time to sit in Rivky's class on deshaming shame... some things came up. It really helped move feelings of hurt, grief and being unloved. It's a lot old, some new, and been asking for my attention. The nice thing about this work is that there doesn't have to be a resolution. Sitting here with all these feelings are what I have availability for right now. so here we are. -FF
Thank you so much for the amazing class and insights that I gained! The energy was so amazing, BH, it help me gain clarity on concepts that weren't as clear to me before. It was so helpful to learn the concept that the medicine is right in the emotion i.e. the comfort is in the discomfort. I would love to hear more about your retreats, how do I go about that? -PM
Rivky, it was good to see you! Thank you for another masterful session. For me the fusing with a partner's defenses was very informative and helpful! -GR
Class was incredible tonight, had such a bliss to it, love it! -CR
That was amazing! You are magic! -RB
The De-Shaming Defenses class was excellent. Thank you for sharing straight from the heart. -FL
